Ultimate Victory of Life: Marriage!

I have plenty of spare time to eat brains these days, I have no idea what is up with me but I feel like debating more than I should. I call it debating whereas people's involvement is limited to listening and nodding, because they know I’ll 'Karate-Chop' them with my condemnation if they will reveal their thoughts.

So, the other day I was conversing about marriages with my friends who are absolutely aware of the fact that how much I loathe matrimony. As an Indian women we are born to leave the house, I said THE house because according to ancestors and social order it is not our house because we get/find OUR house after marriage! If only you know what I mean.  But what if I don’t want to get married? And can’t I just pay money for property? (Oh! Yah it signifies immense practicality and insensitivity).

It is just a small example about the scenario of marriages in India. There are many other things which are looped around marriages. Like if I think of getting inked, no that’s a huge demand... many of us can’t even do a job after graduating because their parents don’t want them to. But the point is, it is somewhat their fault that they don’t fight BUT the line of reasoning which kills it all is that WHY WE HAVE TO FIGHT FOR IT? Why can’t we just get it... why am I told by my parents that ‘do whatever you want to do after marriage? Is that getting married will give me a passport to wonderland where I will become a princess and everyone will just fold their hand and bow their heads for me. No not at all! Why every woman is obliged to follow what others want from/for them, WHAT DO THEY EXACTLY EXPECT FROM US?

A woman is born with a taunt that she is a woman; she is penalized with razor sharp eyes by everyone, whenever she tries to raise her voice. Is that’s what her identity is? A daughter and a wife?
Why we are artificially forced to get married so that we can get settled in life. What if I feel settled enough without getting married. I am not a handbag which is designed to be carried away by people; I am a human being who can raise children without getting married if she wants to...! Oh! I must have broken some social norm in my last line but CAN YOU STOP ME FROM DOING THAT? That’s a different issue that society will kill me with their gorgeous eyes and words.

I couldn't help but wonder why marriage is your ultimate end? I am not against marriages but only if one wanted to get married not because he/she is told to. I am not even saying I will never get married certainly but what I am saying is why there is any limit to that. Why can’t I get married at 40? Sorry I forgot its India, 21 is highly mature enough to get married here.

Anyways, it all goes with men too but they don’t suffer like women because they are not Women! We both parties are familiar with the taunts we bear in daily life. But apart from that my major question is that how can one become very sure about getting married? How would they realize that he/she is the one? I might sound immature to some people but reality is that most of us are never sure. They just like this idea of getting married or getting settled and then just getting trapped in it. And please don’t bring up the discussion of love marriages in front of me because only few of them are practical, others are just phases. Because I have fallen in love three times and that too sincerely!

My last statement about marriages is, why we are again artificially forced to get married like cartoons? Why can’t we just sign up papers and stay content, people who only sign on papers don't receive god’s affection but the Tom n Jerry show of two does???

HATERS GONNA HATE ME BUT PLEASE ASK YOURSELF! DO YOU SERIOUSLY ENJOY SITTING IN BETWEEN WEIRD PEOPLE, MANTRAS AND LOADS N LOADS OF THINGS ON YOUR HEAD?